I have a network of moms and wives that I speak with about “the joys of being a wife and mom” (please know this statement is drenched in sarcasm, lol). Anywho one of the things that I constantly hear from my fellow wives is how they tire of always feeling like they have to be the responsible one, or the planner, or the bigger person in arguments with their significant other.
Now I know how they feel as I have most definitely been there myself. There were many of times where I have gone to God and said “God, why do I have to be the one who submits or the one who has to be considerate or the one who has to do what’s right. Why can’t I be the irresponsible one or the selfish one sometimes” (please know that of course I am these things sometimes but when I go to God I am whining and feeling sorry for myself, sue me, God still loves me 🙂 )
Nonetheless one day God answered back and he simply asked me “Well who are you living for, yourself or me?” That simple question really helped me put things into perspective because as I answered the question (with the obvious, “For you God.”), God revealed to me that if I was living for myself than fine I have every right to feel like it was unfair and I could go on complaining. However, if I was living for him than I needed to suck it up and get over it, because he has called each of us in every relationship of every kind to play a role and to want to be anything other than who He has called you to be, is to be living for yourself.
So, I encourage you the next time you find yourself confronted with feelings like the ones I described above with your significant other, or any other individual you maybe in in a friendship or working relationship with, and you feel it is unfair, ask yourself “Who am I living for?”
peace and gummy bears to you….